Why blogs are stupid.

There was a time in my life where I thought I knew everything and I was really wise and sharing new ideas with the world that would revolutionize everything.

I looked at Facebook today and post after post after post was like an accident I couldn't turn away from. Advice about parenting. Advice for 20-somethings. Advice for how to get rich quick. Advice for how to be a better Christian. Advice on how I should feel. Advice on how I shouldn't feel. Advice for how to change the world. Advice for how to lose weight easily (which never works because if it did, we would all be thin).

Advice. Advice. More advice.

This is why blogs are stupid. And why I never wanted to have one. I don't know everything and I'm not wise and I don't have any new ideas.

We live in a really dangerous time where people grab on to an idea and worship it. Most of the time, it's our emotional connection to the idea that does this to us. And when we find this idea on social media, we are desperate for connection, so we latch on to something without really thinking about it or questioning it or asking the people we trust and that know us what they might think about it.

For example: I am 38 and single, I don't really have a demographic. But on Facebook, all my friends and peers are posting about weddings and kids and family events. But if I measure my life against theirs, I will always fall short. But we measure how we are doing all the time against all this advice on Facebook. And we always fall short. 

Probably because no one ever posts their struggles on Facebook. We post the best versions of ourselves. We don't upload photo albums highlighting the dark moments of the soul.

Comparison...in a word...sucks. The only way I know to not make my blog stupid is to make it honest. And honestly? This has been one of the darkest years of my life personally. Two back surgeries in one year has derailed the one thing I've been focused on, and losing progress in my health pursuits has been nothing short of heartbreaking. It caused a domino effect of loneliness in me that I am still trying to get a hold of.

Honestly? I am tired of people giving advice. And I am tired of pretending I have advice to give. What I need more of is the "yeah, me too" spirit that the world lacks. The admittance that we are all unsure and that we just don't know. That we are doing the best we can. That we are in it together and don't have the answers.

If this stupid blog helps you be open, it worked. If all it does is make me look like I have some wisdom that no one else does, it failed.

I am learning how to reach out and trust people again. And it's not easy. But it's how I begin to be healthy again. Every day is a choice.

As my dad used to tell me, "Make good decisions." So today, I will. And today is about all I can handle!